The best show I ever saw had maybe 30 people in the room
Math rock and the relationship to post-rock is more complex than the "cousins" framing suggests.
Both genres emerged from a similar place — musicians who felt like the rock song format was exhausted and wanted to expand the vocabulary without abandoning the guitar-based rock instrumentation. Both genres are primarily instrumental or feature vocals as one element among others rather than as the lead. Both genres reward repeated listening in ways that more conventional rock doesn't.
But the differences in how they achieve their effects are worth mapping carefully. Post-rock is primarily about dynamics and narrative arc — the classic post-rock structure builds from quiet to overwhelming and back. Math rock is primarily about rhythmic complexity and the interplay between instruments — the texture is less important than the conversation.
The crossover artists — bands that use math rock's rhythmic complexity in service of post-rock's dynamic narrative — are often the most interesting ones in both traditions.